Earlier we used to do poojas from amavasya tharpanam to vrathams with vadhiyar. Now in many houses we have replaced this custom with CDs and viradha Pooja books.

Yes. Many of us spend so much money giving thamboolam just to prove our status. Without giving bramana dhanam vratam is not completed.

We have to take a vow that we should not bargain with vaideegas

Giving Respect to Vaidheegas, doing Pujas and Homams at home with Vadyar and as many vaidheegas as possible, Dhadyaradhanam and offering them good dakshina and vastram wholeheartedly are utmost duties of  everyone. Even if we do it by ourselves at home for some reason, dakshina should be offered to some vaidheega later. . 

Even when we go to temples rather than putting money in hundi (which normally goes to goverment and then being used by politicians for various purposes), we have to offer more money to Archakas who is doing kainkaryam as per  varnasrama dharma

Brahmana dharmam is doing vaidheegam only.  When Brahmanas by birth do so many things (doing other varnasrama dharma works) other than vaidheegam, then at least, they have to take care of Vaidheegas well as per other varnasrama dharmam

"MAATRU DEVO BHAVA.."..Highest Position for WOMEN. Who are the means for introducing any individual to PRAPANCHAM

Next.  " PITRU DEVO BHAVA."..Father who was Instrumental

Then AACHARYA DEVO BHAVA.

Who leads us to AWRENESS ..And Then 

DEVA DEVO BHAVA

To think of AND THANK WITH GRATITUDE TO SUPREME...

As such ...Several apprehensions are to be approached with care.

Bhagavan gives All the above four relationships to us by birth to show us the right path to reach Him soon without any distractions if the given relationships are well utilized in a proper way.

First, we have to trust Maatha. Then Pitha. Then when both together take us to our  Paramparya Acharya, we should start trusting Him as He is our Guide given to us by God and we have to follow His upadesams as a family. If all these three happen, Our Acharya will show us the right path, tell us how to travel in the path and what all supports given by Bhagavan to us to reach destination easily. This is such an easy plan offered to us by Bhagavan to  accomplish the goal -  but out of curiosity, impatience and our desire to use our intelligence(!) to explore various paths, we may make it a much complicated one.

We, with our limited knowledge can only think about our current janma. 

Bhagavan only knows the complete picture of our several janmas, our karma bags and our future janmas (if not liberated in the current janma). So, based on that he makes a plan to give us a birth (human birth itself is a rare one) in a particular family, particular varnasrama, boy or girl suitable for easy advancement towards destination. He solves our 'path to destination puzzle' like a Big jigsaw puzzle by making so many movements. Without questioning and with strong belief in Him and Acharya, if we incline ourselves to be in a place, they show, He can solve the puzzle soon and will make our life and then Atma blossom like a beautiful flower picture.

Chapter 6: Sankhya-yoga

TEXT 41

prapya punya-krtam lokan

usitva sasvatih samah

sucinam srimatam gehe

yoga-bhrasto 'bhijayate

When Arjuna asked Krishna 'what will happen if he fails in the yoga taken in this birth', Krishna assured him (and us) that He will give us a birth in the next janma in a pious family to continue yoga from the place where he (we) left. *There is a meaning for each and every relationship we get by birth. We should learn to respect that*. Especially, Acharyas we have by birth (family Parmparya Acharyas) play an important role in giving us the directions. If we go along the shown path, it will be easy. 

Sometimes atmas will be placed in a place (brahmanas, gents) where they have to do edhirneechal (by vedha chanting for lokakshema following lots of niyamas and anushtanams, where some wrong pronunciation or lack of achara, anushtanams will bring them papam and lokahaani too) to reach the destination whereas some will be placed in a position where they can do direct swimming with some resting places in between to reach the same destination. If these persons want to put edhirneechal and change the direction or if those people want to reach nearby land (with so much scenery) by walk easily, both will end up in wrong destinations. When husband and wife agreed to go in a single boat, it will be easy if they both operate, their side pedal. If wife from left wants to operate right side pedal and husband from right wants to operate left side pedal, boat won't move. So, we always have advantage if we go by rules.